Before we go there, I’m curious if you’ve given thought to the questions in my last post and are crafting your definition of success? If you have, great – please share your ideas below. If not, that’s cool – I get that it’s not easy. Either way, keep reading so you can discover one of the major obstacles I had to address before I could create my definition of success.
For decades, I had a terrible affliction – Comparisonitis. Yes, it’s an ugly, misery-inducing mindset that lead me down the dark, damp, musty tunnel of “should!” I should do this, I should do that. What made this doubly damaging is the “shoulds” weren’t coming from a source of inspiration or desire… rather, it was harsh, judging and low energy frequency that always put me in the corner of less than and not enough.
Can you relate? Do you often find yourself in the “should” tunnel? If so, then stay with me because after suffering from this malady for decades, I finally found the “cure” and that’s what I want to share with you today.
For those of you who’ve been following me for some time, you won’t be surprised to learn that the cure I discovered is self-understanding… one of those pesky “self muscles” that may have atrophied due to lack of use.
The cure for Comparisonitis:
First, please know the cure isn’t easy, nor fast nor effortless. It requires your attention, commitment and it’s work. Second, there are many cures available – what’s important is for you to find what works for you. What I’m sharing with you worked for me. If you’re so inclined, dial up your curiosity and do some research. In the meantime, I invite you to check out these three resources. Each one is powerful on its own. When used collectively, you’ll have a powerhouse of tools available to you.
Self-Determination Theory tells us that, “we want to feel in control of our own path forward (autonomy). We like the experience of developing and using the skills needed to do that (competence). And we want to be connected to some higher purpose or cause along the way (relatedness).”
The Theory of Human Design tells us, “each of us is unique. We are meant to specialize and play specific roles. Our capability for genuine action and self-expression comes from an inner truth and strength within each of us. There is potential for great power and magnificence in all of us.”
Intentional Change Theory tells us that, “we need to understand two versions of ourselves in order to follow the path toward our own success. First, you need to understand your ideal self, which is made up of your personal mission, values, and vision. Second, you need to understand your real self, or your current reality, which we’ll get to later.”
So now it’s your turn – have some fun, check out the free assessments on each of these sites and perhaps, you’ll learn something new about yourself, or at a minimum, have additional information to help you cure yourself from comparisonitis so that you can start creating your definition of success.