Last week we talked about the inner dialogue in our heads – be it conscious or unconscious – that critical, judgmental dialogue that seems to run on and on and on. We all experience some aspects of this unhealthy relationship with ourselves. If you missed last week’s post, this link will take you to it.
In this post, I promised to tell you the steps I took to replace that unwelcome relationship with the Ultimate Relationship – one that is kind, loving, forgiving, appreciative, grateful and loves to laugh. That’s who I want to hang with 24/7!
The first step is to define what you want your ultimate relationship to look like, feel like, be like. Understanding exactly what you want and visualizing it becomes the foundation for building your ultimate relationship. What words will you use to describe it? How does it feel? Where do you feel it? This may sound simple – it’s not easy because your inner dialogue may interfere, block your path and subtly – or not so subtly – suggest you don’t go there. You may feel uncomfortable, uneasy, foolish. That’s OK. Do it anyway, because the only way to break through the discomfort is by taking action.
Remember when you learned how to ride a bike? Jump rope? Roller skate? There were bumps and bruises along the learning path. This is no different : You’re learning a new skill, a new language and new techniques. Give yourself permission to be uncomfortable and believe it when you say, “Yes, I can do this.”
Make your list of words that describe or define your ultimate relationship and, in the next post, we’ll tackle step three.
Quote to ponder:
“If you believe in yourself, anything is possible.” Miley Cyrus
Question to Ponder:
Which living person do you most admire?