Roxi G. loves to whine, complain and grouse about what’s wrong with her life, her work, where she lives, her lack of relationships, her family – you name it, and she can launch into a diatribe. Her friends began matching her whine for whine – how bad the food was at lunch or how so-and-so has such a bad attitude all the time. There wasn’t anything horribly wrong with any of their lives – it was more a case of Roxi being mildly miserable and finding comfort in sharing her mild-mannered misery with others.
Does this sound familiar? Do you know someone like Roxi? Are you like Roxi?
Ba-bing! Then one day, Roxi had a most unexpected awareness; she realized how her whining had infected her friends, permeated her thinking and generally set her up for one miserable day after another. She had contaminated her friends with the complaining virus. Looking back over the last few months, she realized just how pervasive this virus had become. And even with her self-proclaimed Ph.D. in whining, as masterful as she was, all the complaining wasn’t changing anything. Rather, she became entrenched in sharing her mild case of misery because she could. Yes, it is contagious. Her second ba-bing was realizing that, while misery may love company and give temporary relief, it was keeping her stuck. The more she complained, the more she reinforced her misery. Is there any hope for Roxi? Yes, there is, and it’s much simpler than you might think. Here’s the solution: She has to shift her thinking from what’s wrong to what’s right. Shifting her focus and investing her energy into what’s right in her life will free her from the misery of what’s wrong in her life. Appreciation is the cure. Here’s a quick peek at the step-by-step strategy: 1. Be consciously aware of what your inner dialogue is saying to you. Tune in and take note of what messages or thoughts you are repeating to yourself over and over. 2. Write down the thought (i.e. complaint, whine, grouse or general dissatisfaction. It doesn’t have to be catastrophic to warrant being written down.). 3. Write down three things that you appreciate having, doing, being, experiencing today. 4. Repeat the process as needed until you have cured your whining with appreciation. In closing, one more thought I want to share with you. I believe there is some value in whining, complaining and grousing. When the need arises for me to whine, I set the timer for five minutes and sit on the pity pot. When the timer goes off, it’s time to get up, flush, and appreciate the fact that I’m done with that temporary condition and can now do something fun. Try this and let me know how it works for you.
Quote to ponder:
“What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.” Maya Angelou
Question to Ponder:
What is the price you pay for complaining?
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